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The Top 10 Reasons to Remain Silent

How often do we speak and instantly regret it? My solution is to develop as guidelines the principles uniquely important for us individually, principles enabling us to recognise those occasions when remaining silent is important, sometimes vitally so. Reflecting our values, these principles allow us to rest more easily, more confident that when testing times arise we shall know the alternative which is right for us. I believe that even going through the necessary creation process increases the chances of our acting spontaneously
in accordance with our integrity.

And the advantages? Implemented, these are the decisions which strengthen
us, stimulate our personal growth and facilitate refreshing sleep free from
anxiety and remorse. The following are my 'Top Ten Times to Remain Silent,'
what are yours?

1. When words are about to be spoken in anger and might be regretted.

2. When it has been said before and is not worth repeating.

3. To justify one's behaviour, of which one is not proud, by citing someone

4. To avoid inflicting unconstructive criticism.

5. When silence resonates and words are empty.

6. When honourable actions are more expressive than words.

7. After indicating graciously that the question oversteps one's boundaries.

8. When the moment is perfect without words.

9. When the heart is full and speaking would be a drain.

10. When to speak would only be to boast.

About the submitter:
This piece was written by Martin Sawdon who can be reached at or visited on the web at

Martin has a special interest in people in the workplace and the creation of Sustainable Workplaces, corporations which are extraordinarily profitable, extraordinarily effective if public sector but get there by growing people rather than consuming them like a fossil fuel. He coaches clients with integrity and great senses of humor, who are determined to realize achievements beyond their wildest dreams.

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